Diary of belina singhhttp://belinasingh.rediffiland.com/Diary of belina singhen-usConfused ???..If you are in love?? Check this out
How True Is Your Love

Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing and is your voice caught within your chest??
-It isn't love, it's LIKE.


You can't keep your eyes or hands off of her, am I right??
-It isn't love, it's LUST.


Are you proud, and eager to show her off??
-It isn't love, it's LUCK.


Do you want her because you know she's there??
-It isn't love, it's LONELINESS.

Are you with her because it's what everyone wants??
-It isn't love, it's LOYALTY.


Are you with her because she kissed you, or held your hand?
-It isn't love, its LOW CONFIDENCE.


Do you stay for her confessions of love, because you don't want to hurt her?
-It isn't love, it's PITY.


Do you belong to her because the sight of her makes your heart skip a beat??
-It isn't love, it's INFATUATION.


Do you pardon her faults because you care about her?
-It isn't love, it's FRIENDSHIP.

Do you tell her every day she is the only one you think of?
-It isn't love, it's a LIE.


Are you willing to give up all of your favorite things for her sake?
-It isn't love, it's CHARITY.


Does your heart ache and breaks when she's sad?
-Then it's LOVE.


Do you cry for her pain, even when she's strong?
-Then it's LOVE.


Do her eyes see your true heart, and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?
-Then it's LOVE.

Do you stay because a blinding, incomprehensible mix of pain and relation pulls you close and holds you to her?
-Then it's LOVE.


Do you accept her faults because it's a part of who she is?
-Then it's LOVE.

Are you attracted to others, but stay with her faithfully without regret??
-Then it's LOVE.


Would you give her your heart, your life, your death??
-Then it's LOVE.


Now, if love is painful, and tortures us so, why do we love?
Why is it all we search for in life? This pain, this agony?


Why is it all we long for? This torture, this powerful death of self?
Why?
The answer is so simple because it's...LOVE.

My comment:
LOve is such an addictive thing that even people who are not in love wish to experience it,despite knowing the fact that it comes with lot of pain. Yet, it is such a wonderful feeling.By now I guess you guys who have read this would be a lil clear if the person you think you love is your LOVE.Wishing the very best to all of you. And to those , who wish to experence love I would suggest :) If you love somebody show it as the greatest weakness of humans is their hesitancy to tell others how much they love them .Go ahead ....break the ice....

Love,
Belina









]]>Wed, 23 May 2007 09:34:24 +0530http://belinasingh.rediffiland.com/blogs/2007/05/23/Confused-If-you-are-in-love-Check-this.htmlDo not commit blindly,it may cost you of
the street. A tall lady opened the door. Before she could speak, the enthusiastic salesman barged into the living room and opened a big black plastic bag and poured all the cow droppings onto the carpet.

"Madam, if I could not clean this up with the use of this new powerful Vacuum cleaner, I will EAT all this dung!" exclaimed the eager salesman.

"Do you need chilly sauce or ketchup with that" asked the lady.
The bewildered salesman asked, "Why, madam?"

"There's no electricity in the house..." said the lady

]]>Tue, 22 May 2007 16:14:15 +0530http://belinasingh.rediffiland.com/blogs/2007/05/22/Do-not-commit-blindly-it-may-cost.htmlShe/He...And a love story
She/He...And a love story
Please note: The places mentioned in this story is mostly in bangalore..... Please read my comment at th end of this............




Friend: Happy birthday!
She : Haan...tha......nk yo....u...was just getting up from the bed.

Friend : Oh! That means I am the first to wish you!
She : Naa! He has already wished me at 12 in the night.

Friend : Who???
She : Come on, who else, Nitin.

Friend : Oh, ok. So, what's the plan for today?
She : Nitin told me that he has a surprise gift for me for my Birthday. And also we are going to Flower Show today. I am excited! I have never seen the flower show that happens in Lal Baug. Actually that itself is the most wonderful gift for me.

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Friend : "Did you go to Palace grounds all the way from Basavanagudi, to see Bryan Adam's show!!! Who accompanied you?"
She : Nitin

Friend : By the way, who referred your CV in SoCrates? I mean you don't know anyone there, right?
She : No, he forwarded my CV to one of his friends there.

Friend : I heard that the HR round interview went on till 8pm in the night. I think you faced difficulty in returning to your room.
She : No, he had come to pick me up. He came from his office, dropped me to my room and he returned to his room at around 11pm. He didn't have dinner also. I asked him to have at my room. Poor Nitin.

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Friend : If you are supposed to go home tomorrow itself then what about reservation?
She : I have told him, he will go to Majestic and would get it done, and he told he has some work in Majestic. That's why I am relaxed a bit.

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Friend : How was your written test in Philips?
She : I failed yaar. The day before the test I had prepared perfectly. Nitin had come to our room. He taught me the basics of embedded programming concepts. I was very confident only because of him. But something else was in store for me.

Friend : Then, what did you do on Sunday?
She : We had gone to see "Lakshya". He doesn't see Hindi movies. But as I was upset after failing in the Philips written test, he took me for movie. I was very happy and surprised that he himself decided for a Hindi movie, and he was very happy that I enjoyed the movie. And you know; we had dinner in Pizza hut. It was his belated B'day treat!

Friend : And, what was your belated gift ;-)
She : Gift!! I had given the gift on his B'day itself. I was the first to call him at 12 in the night, he was busy throughout the day, and somehow we could meet in the evening and I gifted him with a cute time piece with a nice quote on it. He doesn't have time sense, so my time piece must always remind him of this. That day he didn't give me any treat as he had to go back to office. Yesterday I had a fight over this, you know! Poor kid.

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Friend : Hello...what about our sari shopping program in Malleshwaram?
She : Listen, I will call you later.

Friend : You didn't call me back in the morning, so I called now.
She : Yeah, when you called I was in Koramangala, with Nitin. He was very upset in the morning. He had a fight with his elder brother. So, it wouldn't have been fair on my part to leave him alone. If I am with him in such situation very soon he comes back to normalcy. So I postponed the Malleshwaram program.

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Friend : Hey! What happened? You seem to be very happy today.
She : Why not? You know today is one of the most happiest days for me. Nitin got an onsite assignment in UK, for 6 months! That's why I am very happy. All of his hard work paid today. He had been waiting for this opportunity since long. He'll be leaving next month.

Friend : You will miss him.
She : Badly. I am so much dependent on him. I must thank Sanju, through him only I got to know Nitin. Without Nitin it would have been very difficult for me to stay in this alien city with no friends, relatives and on top of all, no job. He has been so caring friend all through my tough times in this city, he is so mature, so understanding, so trustworthy...a true friend.

Friend : He loves you yaar.
She : I know.

Friend : And you? Don't you love him?
She : I don't want to.

Friend : Don't tell me. You also feel for him.
She : I know yaar. He has everything that I expect in my dream-life-partner. I know I can never get a true life partner like him. But I don't want to commit.

Friend : What is stopping you? I really don't understand. When Miya-beevi are razi kya karega kazi?
She : Please...don't say like that. I never told him that I love him or something like that.

Friend : Is he a fool not to understand your feelings which are so clear from outside only? Poor fellow, don't leave him alone.
She : I have told him everything about my family. He knows how orthodox my parents are. They can never expect me marrying a guy from a different caste. They trust me. Come what may, I will not hurt my parent's feelings. I cannot imagine also. Now they are happily searching a guy for me in my native place.

Friend : Hmm, I don't understand at all.

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She : This Saturday I have to go home, a guy is coming to see me.
Friend : Oh! Is it? Good news yaar. Your first interview! Wish you all the best.

Friend : Any guesses, who is he?
She : Please yaar. I am least bothered and least interested. For the sake of my parents' happiness I have agreed for this.

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Friend : What about the interview, I was expecting your call actually?
She : Nothing so special. I didn't like the guy's attitude. I told my parents clearly. My parents are very understanding and so they too told me that they won't go ahead with this matter.

Friend : But still you should have analyzed properly.
She : I shared my views with Nitin. He had called me the next day. He didn't suggest me anything. He didn't tell me to say "yes" or "no", he didn't preach what is right or what is wrong. But after talking to him I was satisfied that whatever decision I took was right.

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Friend : Yesterday your mobile was engaged for more than half an hour. I kept trying, but I slept after 11pm.
She : Yeah, I was talking to Nitin. He is very much worried about my marriage. He is concerned whether I would get a guy of my choice or not, whether I would be happy with him or not. I was very sad to know this. But I am helpless. I pacified him and convinced that whatever my parents do, that will be the best for me, so no need to worry.

Friend : How Nitin will feel after you get married? Will he not be upset all the time?
She : Time will change everything. He will start living again. Was he not leading a normal life before I came into his life? It's all matter of time. Even I can't do anything other than pacifying him and myself with these philosophical statements.

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Finally " She" got engaged with a guy of her parent's choice (with her "yes" of course). She is in touch with both Nitin and the new " him" regularly through chatting in Yahoo Messenger.

Finally " She" got happily married to " him", very soon converting Nitin into memories, but deleting the memories was slow and almost impossible for Nitin.

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Why do girls do like this?

She needs him when she is new to the city.
She needs his help in finding out a PG or hostel for her
She makes him prepare a good-format-CV for her
She needs him to drop her to the venue of a walk-in interview
She expects him to collect all the consultants' mail ids
She needs him while preparing for the interviews
She needs his help in identifying HER skill sets, strengths and weakness!
She wants him to conduct a mock-interview for her!
She gives her yahoo mail id password so that he can forward her CV to consultants through internet in his office (in office hours!)
She needs him for boosting her confidence when she fails in the 1 st written test in her life
She wants him to take her to M.G Road , Brigade Road, Forum and Big bazaar
She needs his company while visiting all the temples in Malleshwaram on Vijayadashami, though he is not a believer of God.
She asks his opinions on importance of marriage
She wants him to be a shoulder to cry when her parents force her for marriage
She needs his help in preparing her mind for the first interview with a guy
She needs his help in deciding about the marriage proposal
She loves to share her happiness with him when she gets engaged
She expects him to attend her marriage (Come on guys, he is a true friend of her!)

The guy does all this honestly, without saying a single "No".

He loves her.
He cares for her.
Whatever he is today; it is only because of her entry in to his life.
He treats her as his life.
She changed him.
It is only because of her, he is smiling.
It is only because of her, he has forgotten the past bitter experiences.
She is the first person in his life to influence him so much.
He was the " bhatka hua musafir " and she came as his " manzil".
He threw the cigarette in the dust-bin because of her.
He has cultivated a positive attitude towards marriage and family because of her.
She is the perfect Indian woman he has ever seen.
He keeps a photo of Lord Krishna in his purse now; only because of her (also it is her favorite deity!).
Weekends come and go without his notice; it is only because of her.
He stopped going to office on Weekends; it is only because of her.
Onsite project was his dream; he puts all his efforts now, not to get an onsite assignment but to get a job for her in Bangalore.

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The girl depends on the guy as if she never lived and can never live without him. Guy behaves as if he has taken birth on this earth only to care for that lady. She treats him as a shoulder to cry and he treats her as a puppy in a rain storm. She loves to depend and he loves to take care, finally they fall in so called "love", ultimately adding an unnecessary trauma to life. Girls want a perfect life partner but they don't want to hurt their parents' feelings, guys know that they can't get her but still they want to care for her(because they want her to be happy wherever she is and with whoever she is).Great! Or shall I say crap!

Or I think no need to be so serious about it.

She gets engaged, life goes on...
Long lasting phone calls become short and sweet, life goes on...
A heart which was used to "Good morning" SMSs learns to be happy with just the "Happy weekend" SMSs, life goes on...
No more "Unread messages" in the yahoo mail, life goes on...
No one to share coffee at "Barista" at the end of a tiring working day, life goes on...
No more consultants' calls to be diverted and life goes on...
He starts smoking again, life goes on...
He is still living in flashback, and no looking back for her, but life goes on...
He gets promoted, he is a manager, she is mother of two kids, and life goes on...
He is in his late twenties, happily married to a beautiful, understanding, mature, caring, broad minded wife! Anyway life goes on...

Who knows, among these "Nitin "s someone will come up as "Cheran" (ace Tamil film director)and make a wonderful movie "My autograph" telling us of his unsuccessful love stories, or someone will come up as "Sudeep"( Kannada film actor turned director) who goes to his flashback after seeing this movie and then decides remaking this movie in Kannada, giving common people an opportunity to relive their past love-life at least for 3 hours, that too with their spouses, without any problem! Because there is " She" in every wife and there is Nitin in every husband (most of the times!). There are dumb spectators like " Friend" who are puzzled to see the whole episode between "She" and Nitin and just ask themselves " WHAT IT IS???" .






Can anyone say that it has never happened in your life...Dare to say no...It happens with all...



My comment:
After reading this forward I have got lots of appreciation mails from other bloggers. It was a forward sent by one very special person to me who has done all that mentioned things which the guy in this forward does. And unfortunately I am exactly like the girl in the story. when I read it first time I felt, it was written for me and him on the writer's mind. And wondered if there were others who also would feel like me, so I put this blog in the forward section.:):).

]]>Fri, 18 May 2007 17:25:03 +0530http://belinasingh.rediffiland.com/blogs/2007/05/18/She-He-And-a-love.htmlHappy about being meAll my life I had been looking for something, and everywhere I turned someone tried to tell me what it was. I accepted their answers too, though they were often in contradiction and even self-contradictory. I was naïve. I was looking for myself and asking everyone except myself questions which I, and only I, could answer. It took me a long time and much painful boomeranging of my expectations to achieve a realization everyone else appears to have been born with: that I am nobody but myself.I am happy I am 'ME' and hope to continue the same

]]>Fri, 18 May 2007 13:43:14 +0530http://belinasingh.rediffiland.com/blogs/2007/05/18/Happy-about-being.htmlA short love story
There was a Blind Gurl
WhO Hate Herself
cOz Of being Blind.
She Hate every1
Except her Boy friend..
1 day de Gurl said
that if She can
Only c the wOrld
she will marry her bOyfriend,
One day sOme1
dOnated eyes to her
& then she saw Every thing
including her bOyfriend ,
her bOyfriend ask her,
"nOw that u can c ,
will u Marry Me?",
the girl was shOcked when
she saw her bOyfriend
is alsO Blind,
& she refuse tO Marry him.
Her bOyfriend walk away
with Tears & said,
just take care Of
my eyes dear

Guess most of you would have got this forward, I liked it and hence posted it for people who haven't yet got the forward:):)]]>Fri, 18 May 2007 10:45:58 +0530http://belinasingh.rediffiland.com/blogs/2007/05/18/A-short-love.htmlLove is blindLOVE IS BLIND
A long time ago, before the world was created and
humans set foot on it,God had put all the human
"qualities" in a separate room. Since all the
qualities were bored they decided to play hide &
seek."Madness" was one of the qualities and he
shouted: "I want to count, I want to count!"
And since nobody was crazy enough to want to seek
"Madness", all the other qualities agreed.So "Madness"
leaned against a tree and started to count:


"One, two,three..." As "Madness" counted, the
qualities went hiding.
"Treason" hid in a pile of garbage..
"Lie " said that it would hide under a stone, but hid
at the bottom of the lake. And Madness continued to
count "... seventy nine, eighty, eighty one..."


By this time, all the qualities were already
hidden-except "Love ". For stupid as "Love " is, he
could not decide where to hide.
And this should not surprise us, because we all know
how difficult it is to hide "Love".


"Madness": "...ninety five, ninety six, ninety
seven..." Just when "Madness" got to one
hundred........."Love" jumped into a rose bush where
he hid.


And Madness turned around and shouted: "I'm coming,
I'm coming!" As Madness turned around, "Laziness" was
the first to be found, because "Laziness" was too lazy
to hide. "Madness " searched madly and found "Lie" at
the bottom of the lake. One by one, Madness found
them all - except Love. Madness was getting desperate,
unable to find Love.
Envious of Love, "Envy" whispered to "Madness ": "You
only need to find Love, and Love is hiding in the rose
bush."


"Madness" Jumped on the rose bush and he heard loud
cry . The thorns in the bush had pierced "Loves" eyes.



Hearing the commotion God came into the room and saw
what had happened.
He got very angry and cursed "Madness" and said since
"Love" has become blind because of u...
....u shall always be with him"
And so it came about that from that day on,
Love is blind and is always accompanied by Madness.


]]>Thu, 17 May 2007 15:05:20 +0530http://belinasingh.rediffiland.com/blogs/2007/05/17/Love-is.htmlPotato Gardengarden, but it was very hard work. His only son, who would have helped
him,was in prison. The old man wrote a letter to his son and mentioned his
situation:


Dear Son,

I am feeling pretty bad because it looks like I won't be able to plant
my potato garden this year. I hate to miss doing the garden because your
mother always loved planting time. I'm just getting too old to be
digging up a garden plot. If you were here, all my troubles would be over.

I know you would dig the plot for me, if you weren't in prison.

Love,
Dad


Shortly, the old man received this telegram: "For Heaven's sake, Dad,
don't dig up the garden!! That's where I buried the GUNS!!"

At 4 a.m. the next morning, a dozen FBI agents and local police
officers showed up and dug up the entire garden without finding any guns.

Confused, the old man wrote another note to his son telling him what
happened, and asked him what to do next.

His son's reply was: "Go ahead and plant your potatoes, Dad. It's the best I could do for you from here."]]>Wed, 16 May 2007 12:40:54 +0530http://belinasingh.rediffiland.com/blogs/2007/05/16/Potato.htmlDifferent methods used by S/W companies to kill a Lion





TO KILL A LION COMPANIES FOLLOWS METTHOD


Keane Method:


Hire a lion....


Place him in "QRU"(Bench) for 1 year


Tell him to change his technology from ASP.NET to JAVA or Powerbuilder


Lion dies in confusion he is Cat or lion......



Cognizant Method:


hire a lion... ask him to stay for late nights but give him no work to do.


give him gobi 65 to eat again and again.


hire 100 more lions but do not increase the space to sit


give them same gobi 65 to eat


hire 200 more....... and more ........



TCS method:


hire a lion


give him hell a lot of work and pay him government salary


lion dies of hunger and frustration



IBM's metbod:


hire a lion, give him a pink slip in an hour ....


he dies of unemployment...



Syntel Method:-


Hire a Cat ...


assure him that he will eventually become a Lion once he reaches onsite and


make sure that he never reaches onsite.


Cat dies in hope of becoming a Lion....



MBT method:


hire the lion, make him take 14 tests and tell him that if he doesn't score 60% he will lose the job.


lion dies of the strain?



i-Flex method:


hire a lion???.oops cow, tell him he is a lion, send him in African safari


for implementing flexcube in god forbidden territories, tell him if he comes


alive he will get band movement (promotion)


holy cow dies in fear of the real lion



COSL Method:


hire a lion .


tell him to merge with Goats (polaris) and reduce his allowance...


lion dies from fear that tommorrow he might become a goat....



Polaris Method :


hire ..sorry....purchase a lion(COSL) ..


change his timings...(instead of 9 AM ....change it to 8:30 AM )


cut down his allowance (coupons etc)


lion dies from fear of becoming CAT.....



Patni method:


hire a lion, give him a salary of a cat...


the lion dies before joining....



Wipro Method:


Hire a Lion,


give him a mail Id.


he will die recieving stupid mails all day........!!!!



Accenture Method:


Hire a lion....


Send him to chennai


Ask him to stay on bench for a long time


Ask him to eat idli,Dosa and Vada


No hindi, kannada or no other languages speaking ppl other than TAMIL...


No good food, No water..and specially No Beautiful girls


And say him "Go Ahead be a Tiger".


Lion dies in confusion he is Tiger or lion......



HUAWEI Method:


Hire a Cat; give him a salary of a Lion...


Give him work of 3 Lions


Tell him to work late and even on weekends...


No time for food and family, automatically die



THE LAST BUT NOT THE LEAST



INFOSYS METHOD:


HIRE A LION...


SEND HIM FOR TRAINING IN MYSORE AND MAKE HIM FEEL LIKE


...................................................KING OF THE JUNGLE! J


MAKE HIM TAKE GENERIC COMPREE EXAM


...............LION TURNS INTO CAT


MAKE HIM TAKE STREAM COMPREE EXAM


..............................................CAT TURNS INTO A MOUSE


SEND HIM INTO PRODUCTION WHICH HAS NOTHING TO DO WID HE LEARNED IN TRNG


..............MOUSE RUNS HERE AND THERE FOR HELP!!!


SEND HIM MAILS TELLING ABOUT MANDATORY CERTIFICATIONS


................................................MOUSE COMMITS SUICIDE . JJJ


]]>Tue, 15 May 2007 17:06:49 +0530http://belinasingh.rediffiland.com/blogs/2007/05/15/Different-methods-used-by-S-W-companies-to-kill-a.htmlMy First blogLet me start with an incident. I use my office bus to commute. It was my third day,on my way back,a Rickshaw driver stopped our bus saying his Auto got some scratches.He was a young guy around 20 yrs, He was gutsy enough, inspite of the fact that the bus was full with employess, he picked up a big stone as big as two bricks combined together.He threw the stone at the conductor, luckily the conductor had a narrow escape. I saw few of my bus mates( all guys) getting up from their seats and getting down from the bus.I thought probably they are getting down to sort out the problem. Little did I know, that they were getting down from the bus to get some other mode of conveyance and get to their sweet homes. Situation worsened when 3-4 auto guys joined and starting hitting the conductor with a belt. I was unable to understand what best could be done but could not stop myself and got down to help the conductor.I was the only girl.The rest of the girls sat in the bus silently. When I started talking, they were like madame aap bich main mat padiye. I said bhaiya, aap log unko kiu marr rahe ho, it will no solve the issue why dont you talk it out.After some altercation,the auto driver said he wanted 200 bucks for the damage done to his Rickshaw.I said fine, I will give the money, if that was all that they wanted. But why did they have to beat up the conductor so badly. I had been travelling in the same bus for 3 days and somehow felt bad abt the conductor. It must have been an embarrasing thing for him.Before I paid the money and I told the auto guys, keeping the money in my hand....aapko do sau rupiye chahiye the woh main de rahi hoon lekin aap logon jo hamare conductor ko itna mara uska compensation( i didnt know the hindi word for it) kaise karenge.I told them now I am ready to pay 2000, ten times what they wanted lekin aap logon jitna inhe mara hai,woh bhi marenge. I turned towards the conductor aur unse kaha bhaiya aap chaho to jitna aapko inlogon ne mara hai utna mariye, ya phir ek slap dedijiye...jaisa aap chaho...I asked the auto guys if they were ready for it.They didn't say anything for some time.But I could see that our condutor had forgotten the pain he had been through and could see in his eyes that he was feeling a lot better. I do not believe in ' an eye for an eye' but what I saw in his eyes was really worth it. ............
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